This conversation reminded me of a scene of “Suits” a Netflix series I watch. To make it short one of the lawyers tried to overrule the boss. At the end of the episode, they shake hands. The one who did wrong did not understand the peacefulness of his boss and she says: I like working with tigers and in so I must accept a scratch every now and then. That is accepting wholeness. Continue reading to explore how we can do this too!
This brings me to the question of why? If we are all like this if we all have all sorts of feelings inside of us, then why do we all try to fool ourselves accepting only one part of it? Terence, a Roman – African philosopher that was once a slave, states it clearly: “I am a human therefore nothing human is alien to me”.
What to do then? In the first place, we must understand feelings are tools and they are all valid and they are all there for a reason. Second, you must ALLOW yourself be, you feel how you feel no matter how much you deny it. Allowing yourself to be is basically the only answer. How? The yoga lifestyle has always the same old answer: repetition.
Here is an experiment that might be extremely powerful for this last part of the year. Choose 2 weeks, better 3, but choose is enough, where you will do the following.
Second, begin to allow. Every day, before you jump into your routine, take a moment to allow yourself to feel, to check, and simply connect with the question: how are you? how do you feel? And whatever the answer, allow it to be.
NOTE: Please consider I am not saying to engage in risky and unhealthy honesty. With whom you open up is crucial. What I am implying is that at least you know how you feel and live your day to the top of your possibilities but this time instead of hiding from, take in how you feel, and live the day as well.
Fourth, avoid anything that numbs how you are feeling, especially alcohol and drugs. We will be with ourselves for the rest of our lives. We must stop hiding from part of us and rather embrace all so we become our own safe ground.
And last, share with your loved ones you will be doing this. This will allow them to understand and be prepared. Also, it might inspire them to begin allowing themselves too.
My friend our beauty and power resides in our wholeness. When we look away from our whole all we are stating at is a hole.